Anonymous said: I think that you need to try taking care of a low functioning, non verbal, violent, autistic who cannot use the washroom by themselves.
Why? What do you think this will change? I appreciate that looking after disabled person can be hard. But do you really think that looking someone with personal care needs will make me think it’s ok to abuse disabled people? Or that we should be cured because we’re inconvenient? Or that we’re not really human? Or that the inconvenience we cause to people around us is more important than our human rights?
Do you really, really think that an autistic person being aggressive will make me think that autistic people should be eliminated?
And seriously, why are all you people so obsessed with verbal speech? It’s really weird.
And since you didn’t say, I’m not actually sure what view of mine it is that you are objecting to.
I think that it’s very easy for people to throw autistic people under the bus when they are “non-verbal and violent.” At no point do they consider that these folks are considered non-communicative because they do not speak, and that their communication is routinely ignored and devalued. This leads to personal boundaries being transgressed, which leads to more communication which is ignored, which can eventually lead to violence.
If I say to someone, “Stop doing that,” and they don’t, and I eventually resort to violence because they are continually violating my boundaries, then that is accepted because I can usually communicate with mouthnoises. If I were unable to do so, my communication would be summarily dismissed by these same people.
That is why, when my son is having mouthnoise problems (his ability to use them is sturdier than mine, but not infallible), I give him my phone and he types. I give him a pen and he writes. I give him alternative options. Sometimes I interpret his behaviour (not by deciding what it means but by saying, “I think you’re feeling x/needing some y/whatever, is that right?” and giving him the opportunity to speak in gestures).
It is the parent’s job, the teacher’s job, the carer’s job to afford us opportunities to communicate in a way that works for us. It is not our job to learn to communicate in a way which we CANNOT master, in order to be as convenient as possible.